Megan's Head

A place where Megan gets off her head.

Graham Weir

Graham Weir and I hadn’t spoken in 10 years. When I heard of his death yesterday, I was shocked, devastated and so insanely mad. Even though our deep friendship and decades of collaboration had imploded at the same time as our greatest shared accomplishment, Noah of Cape Town, I still always thought we would get together and laugh; manically, crazily into the night. I am gutted.

Graham and I first started hanging out in Yeoville, Joburg, together. I was a fan and a contemporary. We often followed each other’s performances at the original Black Sun, the next Black Sun and even the last one. We both loved Nick and George and would spend hours at Scandalos. But we became friends and collaborators for real when Graham took over my job as bouncer at The Harbour Café for a while.

When I moved down to Cape Town in 1993 and created the first Theatresports group, we performed at The Dock Road Theatre that December, sharing a stage with Not The Midnight Mass. Soon after that, Graham moved to Cape Town and our creative collaboration became a long-term thing.

We wrote together; Noah of Cape Town, A Circus Sideshow, Songs of Hangings and Redemption.

I directed his and our work. Not The Midnight Mass (two incarnations at least), Songs of Hanging and Redemption, A Circus Sideshow, How Graham Weir Has Accidentally Managed to Stay Alive.

I edited his book How Graham Weir Has Accidentally Managed to Stay Alive.

Our collaboration also happened less formally. I read him everything I wrote, and he did the same with me. We looked over each other’s work. He played me his songs.

We lived in the same commune for a while. I helped him move. He helped me live.

Our fallout was harrowing, horrible and unfixable. We hurt each other. It started under the strain of work but bled into the deeply personal. And still, I didn’t think it would be forever.

We played horrible tricks together. We took useless trips together. We loved and hated things together. We fought dragons and demons together. We were each other’s +1 until both of us ended up in relationships.

Ultimately there is a sense of unfinished business.

I am looking at the painting his mother Mary gave me. It bounced off the wall the week she died. I lit a candle yesterday for Graham and it is the same colour as the painting. Time and space are gone. Go well Graham Weir. I am sorry we fought so long and hard.


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  1. Ah so sorry Megs. When i saw your status yesterday i assumed it was him but couldn’t find anything in Google. So sorry you didn’t get to make that peace and have that last night of laughs. But also imagine if you were assuming it would happen then he likely was too. i only ever saw him perform because of you and am better for it. Plus had the strangest most beautiful communication with Christine for the longest time pre States…

    Thinking of you
    Much love
    Brett Fish

  2. Jenni

    What a wonderful actor, artist.
    Such sad, sad news, as if 2020 hasn’t been brutal enough.
    Sending you armfuls of love.

  3. Simon Cooper

    There were 6 of them – Jody Abrahams, James Cairns, Lulama Masimini, Aldo Brincat, Graham Weir [and with him, you Megan] and Alan Committie – 6 of them who took us on trust and performed at Kalk Bay Theatre before anybody knew us. To Helen and I they will always be the untouchables, entitled to our unconditional support. Now there are 5. I too had my differences with Graham along the way but he was a musical genius, and man, could he sing. To the audiences in whatever place Graham now finds himself, enjoy that voice, and the sense of humour [wicked and cutting as it could be]. Go well, Graham, we will miss you.

  4. Herman Lategan

    This is a beautiful tribute and the space he’s in now is all about love and forgiveness. We do not always show our best sides to people, we are human. It is clear that he loved you very much and you him. Lots of love.

  5. Ingrid

    Sending love and strength , thank you for sharing your beautiful tribute ?

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