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Blessings from Bayla

My most precious dog Bayla is dead. At the end of 1999 Nicholas Ashby brought this scruffy, terrified, strangely odd dog to my house to be mine. We have spent the last almost 12 years together, and pretty much anyone who knows me knew her. She was the dog who grew me up. She was the first dog I had as an adult. She showed me how to look after, love, and be with dogs. And people. She and I had the most complicated, extraordinary yet fulfilling relationship and I cannot imagine my life without her.

Big Friendly and I have had a shit time of it. In May our heartcat Anni was run over. Now Bayla is gone. Our animals have halved in number and our hearts are very sore.

But, I rejoice in memories of Bayla. I loved her deeply and we had the best time of our lives together. I am sitting here in the Spur in G’town bawling my bladdy eyes out. When I left Cape Town I pretty much knew I wasn’t going to see her again, and my heart is held in the strong love hands of Big Friendly who had to do the unthinkable.

She was always difficult to photograph. She was camera shy and she was so black. But here is a good one I took a couple of months ago.


Seriously? Seriously! Seriously.


Sie Weiss Alles


  1. ah megs, my heart goes out to you guys, that is a cool pic of Bayla, feeling your loss and celebrating years of great memories…

  2. Megan,

    To use a very odd reference, In the movie Remember the Titans, Denzel washington’s character is asked about what he is going to do about a player that got injured and will not play in a big game. His response was one that was simple, “You cannot replace a Gary Berteer, not as a player or as a man” ( Ok I might be paraphrasing a little).

    When we loose a beloved pet its a similar thing. You cannot replace your precious Bayla, but yes you must cherish and celebrate the memories and most importantly you must grieve, because it showed that you cared, deeply, for a precious part of your family.

    I know that in time a new little being will worm their way into your heart in a different way, you will never replace your lost one, simply add to the hearts ability to love by offering a new pet to share its love with.

    Monster respect to Big Friendly for having the Job that is one of the worst in the World. I have had to be involved with the goodbyes for enough of the animals in my family to know how much it hurts.

    Love the pic and my thoughts and prayers are with you tonight and over the next few weeks.

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